Tuesday, January 22, 2013

breastfeeding and my thoughts

I honestly shouldn't have to post this post. But after the Kochie scandal so many asked "What is your stance on public breastfeeding? what do you think?"

So what do I think?
I believe all mothers should be supported, not just breastfeeders. I believe, no one should feel ashamed of how they feed and nourish their child, nor should they have to hide away. I believe all mothers and fathers should be able to feed their child however they choose be it breast or bottle, with a cover or without a cover, in peace without judgement.

In Australia the rates of breastfeeding are pretty dismal, 80% of infants are breastfed at 1 week but by 6 months of age its dropped to just 14%  by age 1, it is less then 5%...(Link)

5% of all mums genuinely can not breastfeed even after trying pumping and medications, these mums would love to breastfeed. They would love to not feel like their bodies failed.  Support these mothers, they beat themselves up enough as it is. Check out this link on when breastfeeding doesn't work out. 

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Now back to the kochie scandal.
Breastfeeding and the Law (link)

What is the law?

In Australian Federal Law breastfeeding is a right, not a privilege.
Under the federal Sex Discrimination Act 1984 it is illegal in Australia to discriminate against a person either directly or indirectly on the grounds of breastfeeding. Direct discrimination happens when a person treats someone less favourably than another person. For example, it is discriminatory for a waiter to decline to serve a patron who is breastfeeding. Indirect discrimination happens when an apparently neutral condition has the effect of disadvantaging a particular group, in this case women who are breastfeeding. For example, an employer may impose a requirement on all employees that they must not make any breaks for set periods during the day under any circumstances. Such a condition would particularly disadvantage women who need to express milk.
A useful publication from the Australian Human Rights Commission is Getting to Know the Sex Discrimination Act: A Guide for Young Women.While not directly mentioning breastfeeding, this publication does explain your rights and responsibilities under the Act.
The law in Australia protects you from being discriminated against because you are a breastfeeding mother. This includes if you are expressing milk by hand or with a breast pump to give to your baby later.
… babies can be breastfed anywhere and anytime.
Australian Human Rights Commission - Indigenous Women and Pregnancy Discrimination
FACT SHEET 10: Breastfeeding and Work

The Law protects your right to breastfeed

As the former federal Sex Discrimination Commissioner, Pru Goward (2001-2006), stated: 'A mother's right to breastfeed is protected by the federal Sex Discrimination Act, which prohibits discrimination on the basis of sex, marital status, pregnancy and potential pregnancy. The Act also makes clear that discrimination because a woman is breastfeeding (or expressing) is regarded as sex discrimination because it is clearly a characteristic of women.'
Her predecessor, Susan Halliday (1998-2001) had earlier emphasised: 'Common sense dictates that hungry babies be fed and Australian parents have the right to choose the option of breastfeeding their children. For many years it has been illegal under federal, state and territory law to discriminate against breastfeeding women in the provision of goods and services, including service at restaurants, clubs, pubs and theatres and on public transport. It will be a particularly sad day when, in Australia, a woman is penalised for properly caring for her child in a public place.'

What about State and Territory Laws?

In addition to the protection offered under the federal Sex Discrimination Act 1984, individual states and territories have enacted their own laws to protect the rights of breastfeeding women in areas such as work, education and the provision of goods and services. Details vary from state to state so check with your state or territory government agency. The National Anti-Discrimination Information Gateway is a useful place to start. It has links to each state or territory's commission's websites.
Australian Capital Territory
Breastfeeding is a protected attribute. Discrimination on the basis of breastfeeding is illegal in the areas of: provision of goods and services, accommodation, financial services, employment, sport, education, access to premises, access to membership in a trade or professional organisation, membership of or services in a licensed club, business partnerships, requests for information and unlawful advertising.
New South Wales
Discrimination and harassment on the grounds of sex is illegal in the contexts of: opportunities in employment, state education, goods and services, accommodation and registered clubs. This includes breastfeeding as a characteristic generally appertaining to women.
Northern Territory
Breastfeeding is a protected attribute. Discrimination or harassment on the basis of breastfeeding is illegal in the areas of education, work, accommodation, goods, services and facilities, clubs, insurance and superannuation. For protected attributes it is also illegal to fail to make reasonable accommodation for a person's special needs.
Breastfeeding is a protected attribute. Discrimination on the basis of breastfeeding is explicitly illegal in all areas of public life.
South Australia
It is illegal to discriminate against someone in the areas of accommodation, customer service and education because of their association with a child, which includes breastfeeding.
Breastfeeding is a protected attribute. Discrimination or 'prohibited conduct' is illegal on the basis of breastfeeding in the areas of: education, employment, provision of goods, facilities and services, clubs, state laws and programs, awards and industrial agreements. 'Prohibited conduct' is any conduct that offends, humiliates, intimidates, insults or ridicules a reasonable person on basis of a protected attribute.
Breastfeeding is a protected attribute. Discrimination on the basis of breastfeeding is illegal in the areas of: accommodation, clubs, education, employment, goods and services, selling and transferring land, and sport.
Western Australia
Discrimination on the on the grounds of sex, pregnancy and marital status is illegal in the contexts of: employment, education, access to places and vehicles, provision of goods, services and facilities, accommodation, disposal of land, clubs, application forms, advertisements, insurance (in some instances) and sport (in some instances). This includes breastfeeding as a characteristic generally appertaining to women. An amendment to prohibit discrimination against mothers breastfeeding in a public place was passed on 25 March 2010.
There is further general information about the various state laws from the Australian Human Rights Commission in A guide to Australia's anti-discrimination laws. You may also want to read aboutHow state and federal laws interactfrom the SA Equal Opportunity Commission. More detailed information with regard to breastfeeding and discrimination in each individual state and territory is found near the end of this article in the section Suggested Further Reading.

I have been discriminated against and want to take it further. How do I make a complaint?

Where types of discrimination are covered by both state and federal laws, complaints may be lodged with either the state or federal agency, but not both. If you feel you have grounds for complaint, you can contact the Federal Commission for free advice on 1300 656 419 or online. You can also contact your state or territory agency before deciding who you will make your complaint with. This is especially important as there are differences between the state and federal jurisdictions. An example is the SA Equal Opportunity Commission's Where do I complain - state or federal?
Valid complaints are dealt with by conciliation. This is where the people involved in a complaint talk through the issues with the help of someone impartial and settle the matter on their own terms. It also helps the parties involved to better understand the issues and come up with solutions that are appropriate to their circumstances. This could be an apology, financial compensation, access to facilities previously denied, or something else that is agreed upon.

Pic Link 

I honestly think this debate of Breast V Bottle will continue until everyone puts their pitchforks down and supports each other rather then condem each other.

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Goodbye 2012 hello 2013

So with 2013, I have said goodbye to 2012. I have started the Courageous Living Planner. Which is great to get it subrscribe to  Kate Swoboda’s Your Courageous Life newsletter (which is well worthwhile) to receive her 2013 Courageous Living Planner.

I also have got some more prompts to kick off the new year. From Tara Sophia Mohr.

1. Because I wanted to make 2013 count, I…
Will not let a moment fade away I will capture each moment and cherish it.

2. Because fear of failure was no longer a good enough reason to not do it, in 2013 I…
will study, and start my own business. 

3. Because I listened to the whispers inside, in 2013 I…
will not with the negative toxic people nor will i tolerate their drama and lies. I will only seek to please myself, no one else.

4. Because the things that brought me joy in childhood still do, in 2013 I…
be more creative , do creative things. Go back to circus performing.

5. Because simple pleasures are so rich, in 2013 I…
Seize the moment, cherish doing nothing when I can and just enjoy the peace and quiet.

6. Because my body has served me so beautifully all these years, in 2013 I…
Cherish and look after it. I hope to get my asthma under control this year .

7. Because the world needs my service, in 2013 I…
will continue to blog, and write and be creative.Be me.

8. Because of the remarkable people who have loved me and made me who I am, in 2013 I…
will cherish each moment with the ones who cherish me and are not negative toxic people. I will cherish and tend to these relationships to allow them to grow. 

9. Because I am willing to believe in the power of forgiveness, in 2013 I…
will forgive those who cause me hurt and pain. But this does not mean those people should not apologize nor think their actions are going to be forgotten or tolerated.

10. Because the silence has gone on long enough, in 2013 I….
will seek to regain some old friendships that ended years ago to see if they can become friendships again.

11. Because I am so blessed, in 2013 I…
will continue enjoying motherhood, being a mum of 4 boys is awesome. They bring such joy into my life that I honestly do not think anyone else could ever do. I will also volunteer for a few charities and I also hope to be a mentor for teens.

12. Because I vowed to be more radical, in 2013 I…
will continue to be myself and express my interests and passions as loud as i want.

13. Because I wanted, in the last days of my life, to remember this year with tears of gratitude, in 2013 I…
will be a married woman. I will remember 2013 for the rest of my life and I will look back on it forever. 

#reverb12 Day 31: Love to you, wherever you are NOW

Day 31 (yes i know a day late haha) Question:
Take a moment to yourself, somewhere quiet.

Take a deep breath, and if you have the time/space/inclination do something that has significance for you e.g. light a candle, brew a put of your favourite tea, play your favourite music, whatever.

Think back to where you were all those moons ago, on 1 December when you started #reverb12. All the way back then, I asked: "How are you starting?"

Now, I am not going to ask you "Where are you finishing?" because this is not the end. What I want to ask is, "Where are you now?".

You have spent a month honouring everything that has brought you to this place: the highs, the lows, the messy middles, the exuberant rainbows, the turbulent storms, the fresh strawberries dipped in dark chocolate, the too-tight jeans, the unexpected windfalls, the toddler tantrums (theirs or yours!), all of it.

You have thanked each end every one of these things for the things they have taught you and brought you, and fully know that they reside benignly in your physical, emotional and spiritual being. You know know that while they brought you here and will always be with you, there is no reason for them to hold you back any longer.

You are standing where you are, all that you are, splendidly imperfect and right in the middle of this messy delicious life.

Take another deep breath.

Now quickly and without thinking too much about it, finish these five sentences:

2013 is going to be MY YEAR because...

In 2013, I am going to do...

In 2013, I am going to feel...

In 2013, I am not going to...

In December 2013, I am going to look back and say...

2013 is going to be MY YEAR because... 

 I am getting married !! and I plan to make it a year of possibilities and cease the moment. 

In 2013, I am going to do... 

Study and start my own business and be a mum, be me. Get married so , become a wife. I will be juggling lots of job descriptions haha

In 2013, I am going to feel...
Happy and i mean REALLY happy.  No one and I mean no one will be raining on my parade.

In 2013, I am not going to...
Put up with liars,toxic individuals or the drama those two types bring with them. I also wont tolerate bullshit. I also wont be a people pleaser.

In December 2013, I am going to look back and say...
"Where the F**k did the year go?!" haha  nah, I will be proud of how i go there and what I have accomplished in 2013 and look forward to 2014.