Thursday, February 27, 2014

It's ok to not be okay

Sometimes, when people say "how are you?" , we reply "good" or "okay" but do we really mean it or are we simply saying this to avoid an in depth conversation on something that has been bothering us? 
It's okay to not be okay.
It's okay to say "I'm not ok".

Things do get better. 

Today Ali & I went to an ADHD support group.  It was nice to sit with other parents who know that feeling of where you just feel like giving up at times, that feeling of what the hell did I do ? Where did I go wrong? 
I realized I am harder on myself then other people are on me. In fact, others probably think how do you manage to do that? When they hear I have 4 boys, let alone throwing ADHD , aspergers, auditory & sensory processing disorders and anxiety into the mix amongst the children.  I manage with humour. 

The bad days often are followed by good days and that keeps me going. 

Saturday, February 8, 2014

Life with 4....

Sometimes, I get asked "What is it like having all boys?" or "What is it like to have 4?". Truthfully, I do not know any different. I do not know what it is like to raise a girl. I can not tell you if there is any differences in parenting either gender.
Boys , are fun, they are chaotic. They are full of joy and mischief.  There are those quiet moments though where you see, the protectiveness and the caring side of boys.
 These moments are the blink and you will miss it kind.

Parenting four is a challenge , but one that is rewarded in laughter and joy.  I feel lucky to have these 4 little boys calling me, Mum.

Spotlight: Author: Nathan Squiers

It is not often, I get a chance to sit down and read a book. let alone, a book that makes me want to read the rest of the series within a few chapters. Nathan Squires, has written that book.   This book is a  dark tale  about a character named Xander. Whilst reading, this book you are transported to a world, where you feel that you need to save Xander.
Here is the blurb:
"Xander Stryker wants to die. Ever since witnessing his mother's murder at the hands of his abusive stepfather when he was a boy, he has spent every day trying to reach that goal. But every night he's denied the death he craves. As his eighteenth birthday approaches, a chance for change is offered when his life is plunged into a supernatural world of vampires and other creatures of darkness. 
Caught in the depths of this new reality, mysteries of his vampiric lineage begin to unravel and he's offered the ultimate choice: Continue on with his wretched human life or begin a new one as the vampire prodigy he was always meant to be. 
Unfortunately, the supernatural world can be just as unforgiving and brutal as any other and Xander's choice is met with disastrous consequences. 
Now, with a little support and even less hope, the chaos of his new world collides with his torturous past and threatens to crush him once and for all."

This book is the first in a series titled Crimson Shadow, (which I hope to read all of). There is some themes in this book that would make it not suitable for Children.  The back story to Noir intrigued me.   Nathan started writing when he was 14. At first, his writing was a creative suicide letter.  Squires told me,

"At that time, I hated myself so much that I didn't even feel privileged to write about my own death. So I created Xander Stryker--a teen who was, in many ways, like me--to convey that overwhelming desire to die.But I felt captivated by the character; wanted to see him succeed & triumph where I felt I'd failed."

as time went on and Nathan wrote, he found he wanted to write more and no longer had those
 suicidal goals that he had at the start.

Nathan now supports To Write Love On Her Arms (TWOLHA) the anti-suicide/self-harm movement and a portion of his book sales goes to this cause

You can buy the book from here (link)

I encourage you all to check this series and any other works by this author.